Accountability. Self-truth. Self-awareness. Ownership.  When all hell is breaking loose, are you the problem?

It’s so easy to blame other folk for our mess.  It can be difficult to acknowledge our own flaws; difficult but necessary.  When we fail to check ourselves, we end up in cycles of pain and disappointment. 

Are you toxic?  We think of toxic people as those who consistently behave in ways that make others feel devalued, inadequate, angry, frustrated, annoyed or guilty.  How do you treat people? How do people feel after being in your presence?

Here are a few questions to ask yourself.  No judgment. It’s just you and this blog.  Be honest.  Acknowledging your faults is the first step to correcting the problem. It can change your life.

1.    Do you think you’re right all the time? (No one is.  This is a sure sign)

2.    Do you know how to apologize? (Without saying, “I’m sorry that YOU…It should be, “I’m sorry that I…)

3.    Do you intentionally do/say things to get a ‘rise’ out of people? (This is antagonistic)

4.    Do you get pleasure from insulting/hurting others?

5.    Do you realize you’re doing something wrong but can’t stop?

6.    Can you accept “no” as an answer without pushing people to give you what you want despite them setting boundaries? (Aggressiveness)

7.    Do different people have the same complaint about you?  (Toxic cycles)

8.    Do you twist the truth and stories so you can be the victim?  (Narcissism)

9.    Does it feel like everyone is attacking you? (Including this blog)

 If you’ve answered “yes” to 5 or more of these questions; you may be the problem.  What now?  I’m not a therapist.  You may need one.  There’s no shame in getting counseling or therapy.  Some of us have problems that are deeply rooted.  We’re miserable and we don’t know why.

Short of therapy, it takes practice to change.  You must want to change and believe that change is possible. Your happy life is waiting.

THANK YOU FOR JOINING THE DISCUSSION.  PLEASE COMMENT BELOW, HIT SUBSCRIBE AND CHECK OUT OUR OTHER PAGES.