why i want to submit to a man
Clutch the pearls! I know submission is frowned upon, but I don’t care. Point me towards the kitchen and send me my man. Well, maybe not the kitchen. 😊
First understand; I’m independent, educated, gainfully employed, attractive, intelligent and I have multiple streams of income. I have hobbies which I enjoy and I live a full and rewarding life. I put my daughter through college and I just purchased a car for her. I own my Mercedes. I have diamonds, furs and the Louie bag. I’m booked and busy. I love my family and friends. I’ve stated all of this to highlight that I don’t want to submit to a man for material gain or physical comfort. Thank God, I’m doing just fine.
So, why do I want to submit to a man? Because being “Super Woman” is exhausting and for some of us it’s lethal. I’ve been carrying the load single handedly for 25+ years. I would love to lay the burden down. I would love to be in a wonderful relationship where I don’t have to lead or make all the decisions. Now, let’s be clear. I’m not talking about handing the kingdom over to a ‘fu3k boy’. I’m talking about submitting to a man who has his S.H.I.T. together (Please refer to my previous blog). A sensitive, intelligent, respectful and hardworking man. Here’s how I would submit and to whom:
· MONEY – He must be smart with money. Does he have savings? 401K? Investments? What’s his credit score?
Scenario – He has all the above and wants to invest OUR money in a new business venture.
Submission – I trust him. I support the venture. I don’t argue about the money.
·HOUSEHOLD AFFAIRS – Roles are performed under an agreed upon arrangement that works.
Scenario – He wants dinner served every night @ 5:00pm with me wearing heels.
Submission – He’s made provision for me to be home in time to meet his 5:00pm needs. Dinner is served! In heels!
·PERSONAL ATTENTION – He’s attentive, respectful and sensitive to my needs which I have fully communicated.
Scenario – He wants massages on Mondays, foot baths on Tuesdays, happy endings on Wednesdays, clothes ironed and nails clipped.
Submission – He gets it all.
·DAILY DECISION MAKING – He knows me. He’s trustworthy. He makes decisions that are in the best interest of us both.
Scenario – The decision to pay which bills and when, when the garbage goes out, which insurance company to use, repairs, etc….
Submission – Unless he solicits my opinion, this would be his domain.
·OUTSIDE RELATIONSHIPS – We both have our own set of friends who may or may not intermingle.
Scenario – The girls want to go to brunch and do some shopping. He worked all week and wants to Netflix and chill.
Submission – I’m staying home.
Submission requires both parties to be clear on their needs and trust one another. Egos must be checked at the door. I wouldn’t be with a man I didn’t feel he was worthy of my submission. If you’re too good to bend down and tie his shoes, then he’s not good enough for you. If he’s not good enough for you, then you shouldn’t be with him. Read that again.
Submission is non-verbal. If you’re acting submissively but complaining the entire time; that’s not total submission. Don’t bother. Submission is not about control, it’s all about trust.
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